What happens if you lose respect

While this sounds very simple it takes a consistent effort to treat your spouse or partner respectfully. Respect is not just the absence negative behavior, but the presence of positive behaviors.

While this list is far from exhaustive it captures the essence of a respectful marriage or relationship. How is respect established in a marriage or relationship? Respect is established when you consistently: consider and value the feelings and opinions of your partner; talk to and treat your partner in ways that you would want to be treated; and compromise and negotiate with your partner. How is respect lost in a marriage?

Respect can slowly erode due to day to day stresses and strains. If you or your partner is stressed or struggling with your own issues, you may become irritable and negative, and vent your frustrations on your partner. This can set off a vicious cycle in which partners are increasingly negative and disrespectful to each other. Similarly, an inability to resolve or manage conflicts or differences can lead to anger and frustration, which if expressed in negative and blaming ways can start the same cycle of negative interactions and result in the loss of respect.

These are only a few of the ways that respect can evaporate in a marriage or relationship. Sustaining respect during the course of a relationship takes effort. We are all human, and if someone begins to treat us negatively, inconsiderately, and disrespectfully, we often tend to respond in kind.

The more we cater to their comfort, the more disrespectful they become. Even toddlers should be given choices that help them develop confidence and critical thinking skills, Newman says. It takes a lot of patience, but listening to children is a crucial part of fostering respect.

Kids need parents who make rules but are loving, Newman says. Keep criticism to specific things, not your child. Effective discipline that fosters respect requires consistency, so make sure you say what you mean and do what you say. If a child who is told no has a tantrum in public until you cave, they learn that screaming displays are an effective way to get what they want. A helpful way to think of respect for you as a parent is to strive for cooperation, not compliance, Petersen says.

What can we do about that? Dads with conservative or traditional views about gender roles might be disrespectful when their sons express feelings, such as sadness or fear, that the dad perceives as weak or feminine, Reischer says. Politely disengage and try again later. All parents do. By subscribing, you agree to the terms of our Privacy Statement. By Rania Naim Updated August 25, Daria Shevtsova. About the author Writing makes me feel alive.

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What're your thoughts? What are some things that instantly make you lose respect for someone?